Before I speak, consider: Is it true? Is it kind? Does it improve upon the silence?
In my drinking days, booze made me more talkative, less filtered, and left me feeling all powerful and all knowing…..immortal! Super woman! I loved telling people what to do and when to do it. I loved giving people my “honest” opinion. I could figure out everyone else’s problems in a big hurry, but then would fall short on insight and problem solving when it came to even the smallest of my problems. What I have learned in AA; is that all of my problems had one common denominator = me. Wherever I went, there I was. Boy, did that irk me! I hate when someone points out the obvious to me.
Today, I can look people in the eye. I am on equal par with all folks It is freeing to let them express their issues and pain without having to tell them what to do about it. The burden of being a know-it-all no longer has to be lifted by me. I do not have to have all the answers all the time.In fact, I do not have to have any answers at all. So, when there is some silent moments in a conversation these days, I am reminded that I do not have to fill the gap. One of my favorite prayers is: “Lord, fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff, and nudge me when I have said enough.” Enough said!