Detachment is Honor

The 12th Step invites us to continue the journey one day at a time for the rest of our lives. We need to keep moving forward in recovery, keep developing our spiritual consciousness; if we are to remain spiritually awake and fully alive. ~ 12 Step Literature

The key thing with sponsorship and working with other in service positions is a healthy dose of detachment. We need the art of letting go of others, outcomes and decisions that do not pertain to us. As sponsors, we elan very quickly, that we are powerless over others. We cannot control their decisions which include getting and staying sober. We have no control over their relationship with their HP. We have no control over the outcomes of decisions they make. They are grownups making grownup decisions. We must hand them over to HP and keep our meddling minds out of it. Here is the deal: we can love, appreciate them, care, and guide/mentor. But we cannot honor them whilst interfering with their process and relationship with HP. To truly honor them, we must let go and trust them and their HP to do the next best thing. It is a tall order, but I know you can handle it. Check out these sponsorship questions:

In what way do you practice these principles in your daily life? I try to be the best version of Jo I can each day, asking HP to lift and carry that/whom I cannot handle, and giving me direction and protection in all of my affairs. Then…act as if.

How do you try to to carry the message of recovery to suffering alcoholics? At meetings, I give them my number, a meeting list, and a Big Book. I call people that I know are suffering or stuck. I do service work so that AA doors stay open for generations to come.

Has your concept of G.O.D. changed as the result of working these steps? Very much: Agnostic, to believing in the groups as HP, then Good Orderly Direction, to currently Gift of Desperation. Mother Nature is my church…the universe is my faith. Tell me what works for you! Let’s learn together.


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