You can give a person knowledge, but you can’t make them think. Some people want to remain fools only because the truth requires change. ~ anon
Have you heard the saying in AA: “first thought…wrong!”. We need to think, but then run it past a sponsor or someone else you trust before taking action. It is not because we are stupid or unable to make decisions, but as addicts we have minds that tell us stupid things like: No one is watching. What the heck/who cares. It is my life. I deserve better. No one will know the difference. Everyone else does it. Just this once. I can do as I please. Surely, my mind is not the only one that spends a lot of time justifying and rationalizing in order to get the outcomes I think I need and want.
In step #9, we get the chance to review how this stinking thinking got us into trouble in the first place. We get the opportunity to find better ways of relating to people, places and things. Life doesn’t have to be so hard. I don’t think most folks lay awake all night trying to figure out how to make us miserable. I don’t think G.O.D. does either. We choose how we are going to respond. Today is going to happen anyway. We might as well decide on it being a good day. Right.?Think..think/… think…but check in with someone. Sometimes, just hearing yourself say the justification is enough to help you hear the crazy. Just think: that would be one less amend to make. That is a huge reward for me!